deanisdarkness:

So apparently Dean needs tough love because Dean is a man and the show is written, directed and acted by real men and real men do not need to be handled with kid gloves.

If that is true, then why is Sam always handled with kid gloves? Why Sam’s every trauma is acknowledged and treated with respect and love and sensitivity? The narrative that said “you are weak because you broke in hell” to Dean, took all the care in the world to showcase Sam’s hallucinations in a sympathetic light both post hell and during demon-blood addiction fiasco. How do you explain that? Do they get special female writers/directors/actors for Sam or something? Like, why Missouri was so rude to Dean when she was oh-so-motherly toward Sam? Does that mean that Sam is not a real man but a delicate fainting princess?

Look, I’m not demanding “Dean needs to be loved and protected all the time”, I’m just saying that Dean deserves basic care and respect –something every person deserves despite their gender. I’m asking the show to not to kick Dean in the balls when he is already deep in pain, and I’m asking the fandom to stop glorifying these disgusting scenes where Dean gets belittled and berated for being human (like Bobby’s speech to Dean post strangulation) as some kind of much needed therapy session.  

Anyway, I didn’t know that saying you should not be mean to someone who has just returned from hell/purgatory or who has been strangled by his brother minutes before or who lost his best friend and mother in the last week was strictly a feminine opinion. I’d thought that “you do not beat the shit out of a suicidal man to get him back to his senses” was a truth understood by all beings capable of basic empathy. But I’m just a woman and a bitter dean!girl on top of that, so what do I know about how real men and their minds work?