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12×06 | Celebrating the Life of Asa Fox

Let me talk about what’s wrong with this scene, since at this point I have little hope this will actually be dealt with in the episode.

I can’t believe I have to state this again and again, but just so that there are no misunderstandings: I heavily empathise with Mary’s need for space. I fully get how awkward it is for her to come back from the dead and step into the mom role for two grown men who’re essentially strangers to her.

But here’s how the writers are twisting Mary’s perfectly understandable issues into something unsympathetic and horribly selfish: Nothing she’s done so far has allowed her to get to know Sam and Dean better, to overcome her issues with them. John’s journal contains John’s history, which monsters he killed, which chicks he banged. It doesn’t explain how Sam and Dean became the men they are today. Dean is perfectly justified in pointing out Mary should ask them instead. Yet her answer “This is something I needed to do alone” shows that her interest lies solely in finding out what happened to her friends, her family and John. People who are dead. And again, I think it’s necessary for Mary to catch up on what happened to them, but she’s got the rest of her life to do that. Meanwhile, she is missing out on yet more of Sam and Dean’s lives than she already has.

I doubt the writers are aware of this, but in all her interactions with Sam and Dean this season, she’s displayed about zero interest in them. Her questions to them were mostly about John or new technology. In fact, if I recall correctly, the only bit of personal information about her sons that peaked her interest was when Dean mentioned that Sam went to Stanford.

So please, dear writers, instead of making this all about how Dumb Dean Doesn’t Do Emotions*, actually focus on the story you’ve been telling so far and work with that.

*I think I’ve finally realised why there hasn’t been a single reference to how Dean saved the world in the S11 finale. Because how could they expect us to buy this emotionally constipated Dean crap if they actually reminded us that Dean resolved a cosmic conflict because he was the only one willing to listen to Amara, the only one who didn’t invalidate her feelings?