Apparently I can’t stop writing on this topic

maggiethefelinefatale:

I keep seeing people saying that the reason Dean is going to take Mary’s leaving so hard is because of his history and his abandonment issues.  He is going to take it personally because he is predisposed to think that everyone leaves him and he isn’t good enough for anyone .  As though Dean is just seeing Mary’s leaving through the lens of past experience and low self-esteem and that’s why it’s wrecking him, not because of anything Mary herself did.

But I think it’s important to acknowledge that Mary actually DID reject him.  She flat-out said that being with him and Sam reminded her of how much she missed/wanted to be with her young children.  She absolutely pitted Dean against his younger self and stated that she found him lacking.  And I don’t say that to bash her or because I hate her, I just say it because it’s true.  Regardless of whether you can or cannot understand what Mary did, whether you like her or not, the bald fact of the matter is, she made a completely selfish choice and handled its execution very badly.  And, yes, that just makes her human, like the rest of the Winchesters, it doesn’t necessarily make her evil or anything, but it was not a shining moment for her.

Idk, it just seems like a lot of folks are suggesting Dean is taking this personally unnecessarily because he can’t see that everything is not about him but…Mary made this choice about him and Sam when she explained why she was leaving.  If she had said “I just need to take some time, this is all so unfamiliar to me, I love you but I personally need some time”, that would be different.  Then it really would be Dean internalizing something he doesn’t have reason to.

But Dean has very solid reasons to feel that Mary has rejected him.  And I’m a bit sick of people saying that he doesn’t and kind of…invalidating him in that way.  Not that his issues don’t/won’t play into how hard he has taken and possibly will take it, but they are not the only reason he’s feeling what he’s feeling.